Mary Nicoll
Coercive Control Coach / Mentor
Mary is a qualified musician with a Licentiate in Piano Performance(LRSM) and an ILM level 7 (Masters Level) Certificate in Executive Coaching and Mentoring.
She considers both these diplomas as an important part of her personal story which provide her with the backdrop for raising awareness of coercive control, supporting recovering victims and how developing resilience is an important element in facing unexpected challenges.
Mary survived a coercive control relationship of over twenty years that required her to rebuild her mind and body. With a life in tatters Mary was determined to understand how and why she was left in such a diminished state. Throughout her journey, due to the lack of understanding of this dynamic, she had to navigate her own way in overcoming many challenges that required her to reassess all aspects of her life.
It has taken Mary over 10 years to understand the toxic dynamic that destroyed her life, during which time she was rebuilding her mind and body. During this period she developed an understanding of the insidiousness of coercive control and challenges that individuals encounter, with victims requiring courage and initiative to adapt to these environments.
Her personal journey has made her passionate about raising awareness of coercive control and to inspire victims to find and believe in their truth despite the many challenges that they may encounter along their road to freedom.
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"Do not judge me by my successes, judge me by how many times I fell down and got back up again."
NELSON MANDELA
"I learnt how to organise my life better whilst setting realistic expectations."
Noemi,
“Working with Mary has been a life-changing process for me. Having grown up in a cult my life has been coercively controlled for most of my existence and I have always felt I was lacking some skills and some strategies in life to cope with social demands, to set goals for myself, and to adjust into the world outside the cult. Coaching has been a way for me to learn this: with Mary we have been exploring my values, determining my priorities in life and setting goals for myself, to reach step by step, so that they didn’t feel overwhelming for me. I learnt how to organise my life better whilst setting realistic expectations for myself and achievable objectives that led me to reach a more fulfilled, and less anxious life. I am very grateful for the opportunity I had to share this journey with Mary: her approach has been professional and humane, as well as very creative and personalised. The work we did has been extremely useful and therapeutic for me.”
"Using her intuitive approach and techniques allowed me to find the answers."
Stella,
“Mary’s ability to hold space for being honest and not feeling judged was very supportive in developing the trust I needed to gain more self-confidence in my life. Using her intuitive approach and techniques allowed me to find the answers myself and move forward in my life. I would highly recommend Mary for her kindness and the professionalism she demonstrated in working with me.”
